Missing Piece Fundraiser

Adoption is expensive. We are incredibly fortunate and grateful, though, for the ability to pay for a lot of it, but we still need some help bringing home Baby Hemi. We also know some people want to help but don’t know how. Here’s your opportunity.

We designed a 500 piece puzzle for the baby’s nursery. You can buy one piece for $10, and we will write your name on the back of the piece. You can also buy multiple pieces (e.g. 2=$20, 5=$50), and we can write your name on all of the pieces or a small message to our baby.

Here is the puzzle put together:

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Once the puzzle is complete, we will hang it in the nursery with a double sided glass frame. Our dream is to someday talk to our child about the meaningful words on the front as we teach him or her what it means to be adopted. Then we can flip over the frame and talk about all the wonderful people in their life that helped bring them home.

There is no pressure to donate. We know we have so much support and love for this baby already, and we love our growing support system! If you feel like you want to be a part of the puzzle, though, you can donate at:

https://www.youcaring.com/marcus-betsy-hemesath-573982

In the message section, you can write the name(s) you want on the puzzle or a message if you buy multiple pieces. Also, the website automatically suggests a one dollar donation to their site as they let us use their site for our fundraiser for free. You can simply click the link ($1.00 to YouCaring) to change it to $0.

Thank you in advance for helping us bring home our missing piece! You will forever hold a very special place in our hearts.

When you…

When your dog throws up during your home study….you quickly grab a towel, scoop it up, take it to the laundry room, and act like nothing happened. Yes that happened. Luckily, our social worker is awesome and was very understanding. She said, “Someday it will be babies, not dogs, throwing up!”

When you start the day just looking for carpet for the nursery…you end up at a baby store looking at cribs. Wait…that doesn’t happen to everyone? Weird.

When you and your husband cannot make a decision on carpet or nursery colors…you realize you already want the best for your child, and I can’t imagine how we’ll ever make any serious decisions in the future.

When you walk into a baby store and you are the only one without a bump…you quickly explain that you are adopting and not buying cribs a month into your pregnancy. OR eat a bigger lunch and grab my belly a lot. I went with the former.

When you cry at every gift you receive, card you get, picking out paint colors for the nursery…you realize it does not take pregnancy to be crazy hormonal.

Getting closer every day to bringing home our babe!

Mother’s Day…Again

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Happy Mother’s Day to all the wonderful mothers out there! You have the hardest and most important job in my opinion. You love unconditionally. You make sacrifices every day that go unnoticed. You think you are failing from time to time. You question your decisions. That’s what makes you a good mom. You question everything to make sure they have everything they need to succeed in life. Remember that no one can replace the love you have for your child. You are doing an amazing job, and today is to celebrate you!

This holiday, though, can be brutal. Nothing like a national holiday to slap you across the face and remind you of what you don’t have. Many women can no longer pick up the phone and call their mom. I am extremely grateful that Marcus and I get to spend today with our beautiful mothers. Some women held their child in their arms at one point and now only hold memories, a tragedy I hope to never experience. Other women long to hold their own child instead of the pain  of not being able to conceive. This holiday should also remember all these women and their strength as they go through the impossible.

Last year on this day, I sat in church with my family and cried through the entire service. We had just found out that it would be six months to a year before we would even know if our efforts were successful and if we would be able to conceive naturally. We recently found out that we will not, but we are in a much better place now.

Someone asked me the other day, “Do you think you’ll be a mom by next Mother’s Day?” I truly believe I already am a mom. We are just working a little harder to bring home our baby.

So today I am celebrating every woman, mother or not. Whether this is a big celebration or just another reminder of the pain you carry, I admire you all for your strength and sacrifices.

Domestic? International?

 

I thought I might clear up some more questions you might have…

We did a lot of research on both international and domestic adoptions. We actually thought we would do international at first, but we ended up deciding on domestic adoption for multiple reasons.

The next step was finding an agency. We found through our research that working with a local agency would be difficult if we moved in the middle (like we most likely will be doing). Therefore, we decided on a national agency that can move with us.

What does that mean for us? Our baby could be born in any state! Once we are notified that our baby was born or is on the way, we will leave within 24 hours to wherever the baby is born. What a whirlwind those few days will be!

Then at least one of us will have to stay in the state with the baby for two to three weeks until the state clears us to leave and our state clears us to enter with the baby. This means the first couple weeks of our baby’s life will be spent in a hotel room. It will just add to the crazy adventure we are already on! Also, anything is possible with adoption, so we don’t really know what our experience with look like until we are in it.

So where are we now in the process? We are working on our profile for birth mothers to look at and preparing for our first home study visit tomorrow! We are what they call “paper pregnant.” Lots and lots of paperwork!!

Once our profile is done and we finish the home study, we will go “active.” This means that birth mothers will be shown our profile among others to choose which family they want to adopt their child. We hope to go active in July or August. Then it is out of our hands. Let go and let God!

That’s all for now. I should probably get off the computer and clean the house up a little for the home visit tomorrow. Thanks for checking in!